EFT and Addiction
What is the best way to go about introducing EFT to an addict who is resistant to help?
The addiction is not the problem; the addiction is the ‘solution’ to the addicts perceived problems. The typical approach to treating addiction is to view any addiction as a problem. However, it is important to understand that the addiction is a carefully constructed solution to a problem – a problem the addicted person has yet to accurately identify or solve. Unfortunately, this addiction ‘solution’ eventually causes problems that compromise the emotional and physical health of the addicted person and their loved ones.
Whether viewed as a disease, a biological disorder, or physical and psychological dependency, addictions are treatable by addressing unresolved emotional issues and/or traumas. Seeing the addiction in this way makes EFT an extremely effective tool when treating any type of addiction because EFT addresses the root emotional causes of the addiction and the present manifestations of the addiction, such as cravings or compulsions.
The greater medical community generally agrees that interventions of any kind are best received after the addicted person has experienced a major event that challenges the security that he or she has found in their addiction.
Remember all addictions are the addicts current ‘solutions.’ The addicted person believes their particular addiction works for them. External events may shake this belief, such as losing custody of a child, a spouse leaving, the loss of a job, or simply realizing that they have ended up in a place that they never thought they would. These crisis events give the addicted person the smallest of hints that maybe their life isn’t working as well as they thought it was. During a crisis many addicted persons are more open and less resistant to take the steps toward sobriety.
It is best to try to introduce EFT when the addicted person is sober. Attempting to teaching EFT to a person who is impaired by drugs or alcohol is most often time spent in vain. Waiting until the addicted person is ‘ready’ may take a good deal of patience on the part of the helper.
In addition to the timing of introducing EFT to an addict who may be resistant, there below points can be important to remember:
1. Consider your relationship to the addicted person. You may be too closely involved with him or her and the consequences of their addiction to see the underlying problems clearly. Outside professional help is probably a better option.
2. Introducing EFT with the intention of combating immediate cravings instead of attacking an entire addiction would be a good step in the right direction. Working on cravings offers the addicted person some level of control and offers a good solid introduction to EFT without being threatening.
3. When addressing any issue of addiction with EFT remember the most important aspect: all addicts should be treated with – more love.
Loretta Sparks, LMFT, D, CEP, EFT Master