Zeroing in on a Frozen Moment
by Peter Graham
The procedure described below is based on the theory that a person can get stuck in a specific moment of a traumatic event. And, where there’s a stuck point, there is a fixation of attention and intense resistance (all things being relative). This approach may not be required a lot but it can be very useful when needed.
A stuck point typically includes a moment of shock, overwhelm and/or confusion which are particularly hard to process. At its worst, this is a point where a person feels powerless or defeated by something or someone, real or imagined, and collapses into overwhelm. A stuck point can even occur after an event has finished, such as (for example) several days later when a person suddenly realizes or concludes that something terrible happened and then implodes. When severe, this can be a moment of fragmentation which may manifest later on as a wounded younger self or a disowned part.
Another part of this model is that when such an incident is triggered later on, it is this precise moment that gets reactivated and re-experienced, not the whole experience. It contains the experiential content of that moment in a frozen slice of time. When triggered, the person experiences the emotion(s), feeling(s), belief(s), impulse(s), resistance(s), etc. and may (temporarily) “act out” being the “me” or “self” frozen in that moment.
This method is normally done after an incident has already been worked over routinely using the Tell the Story or Movie technique (which, by the way, consistently encounter and resolve stuck points) and there are observations that suggest or reveal that there’s one or more particular stuck points that need to be put under a magnifying glass and resolved more deeply.
However, an exception to this may be when an engulfing stuck point is encountered while telling the story and it is appropriate to immediately zero-in on it and use this approach. And, very occasionally, it may be appropriate that a stuck point be worked on first (only because that’s where the client’s attention is fixated) and then Tell the Story afterwards to thoroughly test that incident and mop up any other aspects.
The Stuck Point Clearing Procedure
If you haven’t already come across a stuck point to work on, ask for and get “the worst moment” or “a moment of shock” or “overwhelm” or “confusion” or something that “grabs your attention” and/or a similar request. A frozen moment may also be encountered when a person hangs up at a certain point while telling the story or when a client is scanning through an incident and then suddenly stops at a particular point.
Use EFT on anything that is intense as you go through the steps below (such as a feeling, emotion, resistance, decision or negative energy). There are seven steps and each step has a purpose and an end result (such as tapping on THE belief or THE resistance and a significant shift occurs).
- Ask “When did this occur?” and “Where exactly were you at that moment?” Get a specific time (that the client can comfortably establish) and location (even, for example, a location and position in a particular room).
- “In that moment, where did you feel the emotional impact (in your body)?” and then “Can you feel or sense that energy right now?”
- “What feeling(s) or emotion(s) did you experience in that moment?” plus (if or when it seems appropriate) “Are you experiencing that right now?” Do EFT on any that are intense or may be important.
- “In that moment, what were you resisting?” and/or “What were you unwilling to experience?” and/or “What reality were you not accepting?” and use EFT on any intense answers. You can optionally also ask “Are you resisting that right now?” and, if so, tap on that also. There can be more than one answer to each question.
- “What did you come to believe to be true in that moment?” and/or “What conclusion did you reach in that moment?” and “What decision (or resolution) did you make in that moment?” Tap on these if any intensity or reaction.
- Optional: If it seems applicable, ask “What solution(s) did you use in that moment?” and/or “How did you handle that situation at the time?” and tap on any charged solution or related impulses or consequences.
- Referencing his/her answer in Step 2, ask “Can you sense or feel that energy right now?” If so, get where and do EFT on what remains until it is completely gone.
Now, get the client to tell the story and/or scan through the whole incident to see if there is any discomfort while doing that or if he/she reacts or sticks anywhere while doing so. If so, do EFT on that and, if heavy or persisting, do all the above steps on any other stuck points.
A Few Hints and Tips
The wording “and/or” is used in some of the steps. This is because not all the questions are required when the purpose of that step has been achieved and an obvious shift or release has occurred. Use your intuition.
Explain to the client the importance of focusing on just this moment. Some clients wander elsewhere or get distracted easily. Some want to share their views or opinions. Just acknowledge and gently keep him/her focused on that moment.
Occasionally, a stuck point can have layers that need to be systematically worked down through to get to the core. If so, or that’s suspected, the steps of this technique may need to be gone through a several times over several sessions, digging deeper each time.
The Personal Dialogue EFT Technique may also be useful, especially if there’s a tendency to criticize or judge him/herself harshly regarding the moment or incident and/or there’s a tendency to continue identifying with the younger self in that moment or incident.
ACKNOWLEDGEMENT: This technique and most of the steps listed above are directly based on and similar to the Shock Clearing technique developed by John Mace over 10 years ago. I have modified and enhanced it somewhat and have introduced the use of EFT as well.
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Peter Graham, EFT Founding Master
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